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letters to his son, 1749-第6部分
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ld otherwise do; let your intrinsic merit and knowledge be ever so great。 If that would be your case with me; as it really would; judge how much worse it might be with others; who have not the same affection and partiality for you; and to whose hearts you must make your own way。
Remember to write to me constantly while you are in Italy; in the German language and character; till you can write to me in Italian; which will not be till you have been some time at Rome。
Adieu; my dear boy: may you turn out what Mr。 Harte and I wish you。 I must add that if you do not; it will be both your own fault and your own misfortune。
LETTER LXX
LONDON; May 15; O。 S。 1749。
DEAR BOY: This letter will; I hope; find you settled to your serious studies; and your necessary exercises at Turin; after the hurry and the dissipation of the Carnival at Venice。 I mean that your stay at Turin should; and I flatter myself that it will; be an useful and ornamental period of your education; but at the same time I must tell you; that all my affection for you has never yet given me so much anxiety; as that which I now feel。 While you are in danger; I shall be in fear; and you are in danger at Turin。 Mr。 Harte will by his care arm you as well as he can against it; but your own good sense and resolution can alone make you invulnerable。 I am informed; there are now many English at the Academy at Turin; and I fear those are just so many dangers for you to encounter。 Who they are; I do not know; but I well know the general ill conduct; the indecent behavior; and the illiberal views; of my young countrymen。 abroad; especially wherever they are in numbers together。 Ill example is of itself dangerous enough; but those who give it seldom stop there; they add their infamous exhortations and invitations; and; if they fail; they have recourse to ridicule; which is harder for one of your age and inexperience to withstand than either of the former。 Be upon your guard; therefore; against these batteries; which will all be played upon you。 You are not sent abroad to converse with your own countrymen: among them; in general; you will get; little knowledge; no languages; and; I am sure; no manners。 I desire that you will form no connections; nor (what they impudently call) friendships with these people; which are; in truth; only combinations and conspiracies against good morals and good manners。 There is commonly; in young people; a facility that makes them unwilling to refuse anything that is asked of them; a 'mauvaise honte' that makes them ashamed to refuse; and; at the same time; an ambition of pleasing and shining in the company they keep: these several causes produce the best effect in good company; but the very worst in bad。 If people had no vices but their own; few would have so many as they have。 For my own part; I would sooner wear other people's clothes than their vices; and they would sit upon me just as well。 I hope you will have none; but if ever you have; I beg; at least; they may be all your own。 Vices of adoption are; of all others; the most disgraceful and unpardonable。 There are degrees in vices; as well as in virtues; and I must do my countrymen the justice to say; that they generally take their vices in the lower degree。 Their gallantry is the infamous mean debauchery of stews; justly attended and rewarded by the loss of their health; as well as their character。 Their pleasures of the table end in beastly drunkenness; low riot; broken windows; and very often (as they well deserve); broken bones。 They game for the sake of the vice; not of the amusement; and therefore carry it to excess; undo; or are undone by their companions。 By such conduct; and in such company abroad; they come home; the unimproved; illiberal; and ungentlemanlike creatures that one daily sees them; that is; in the park and in the streets; for one never meets them in good company; where they have neither manners to present themselves; nor merit to be received。 But; with the manners of footmen and grooms; they assume their dress too; for you must have observed them in the streets here; in dirty blue frocks; with oaken sticks in their ends; and their hair greasy and unpowdered; tucked up under their hats of an enormous size。 Thus finished and adorned by their travels; they become the disturbers of play…houses; they break the windows; and commonly the landlords; of the taverns where they drink; and are at once the support; the terror; and the victims; of the bawdy…houses they frequent。 These poor mistaken people think they shine; and so they do indeed; but it is as putrefaction shines in the dark。
I am not now preaching to you; like an old fellow; upon their religious or moral texts; I am persuaded that you do not want the best instructions of that kind: but I am advising you as a friend; as a man of the world; as one who would not have you old while you are young; but would have you to take all the pleasures that reason points out; and that decency warrants。 I will therefore suppose; for argument's sake (for upon no other account can it be supposed); that all the vices above mentioned were perfectly innocent in themselves: they would still degrade; vilify; and sink those who practiced them; would obstruct their rising in the world by debasing their characters; and give them low turn of mind; and manners absolutely inconsistent with their making any figure in upper life and great business。
What I have now said; together with your own good sense; is; I hope; sufficient to arm you against the seduction; the invitations; or the profligate exhortations (for I cannot call them temptations) of those unfortunate young people。 On the other hand; when they would engage you in these schemes; content yourself with a decent but steady refusal; avoid controversy upon such plain points。 You are too young to convert them; and; I trust; too wise to be converted by them。 Shun them not only in reality; but even in appearance; if you would be well received in good company; for people will always be shy of receiving a man who comes from a place where the plague rages; let him look ever so healthy。 There are some expressions; both in French and English; and some characters; both in those two and in other countries; which have; I dare say; misled many young men to their ruin。 'Une honnete debauche; une jolie debauche; 〃An agreeable rake; a man of pleasure。〃 Do not think that this means debauchery and profligacy; nothing like it。 It means; at most; the accidental and unfrequent irregularities of youth and vivacity; in opposition to dullness; formality; and want of spirit。 A 'commerce galant'; insensibly formed with a woman of fashion; a glass of wine or two too much; unwarily taken in the warmth and joy of good company; or some innocent frolic; by which nobody is injured; are the utmost bounds of that life of pleasure; which a man of sense and decency; who has a regard for his character; will allow himself; or be allowed by others。 Those who transgress them in the hopes of shining; miss their aim; and become infamous; or at least; contemptible。
The length or shortness of your stay at Turin will sufficiently inform me (even though Mr。 Harte should not) of your conduct there; for; as I have told you before; Mr。 Harte has the strictest orders to carry you away immediately from thence; upon the first and least symptom of infection that he discovers about you; and I know him to be too conscientiously scrupulous; and too much your friend and mine not to execute them exactly。 Moreover; I will inform you; that I shall have constant accounts of your behavior from Comte Salmour; the Governor of the Academy; whose son is now here; and my particular friend。 I have; also; other good channels of intelligence; of which I do not apprise you。 But; supposing that all turns out well at Turin; yet; as I propose your being at Rome for the jubilee; at Christmas; I desire that you will apply yourself diligently to your exercises of dancing; fencing; and riding at the Academy; as well for the sake of your health and growth; as to fashion and supple you。 You must not neglect your dress neither; but take care to be 'bien mis'。 Pray send for the best operator for the teeth at Turin; where I suppose there is some famous one; and let him put yours in perfect order; and then take care to keep them so; afterward; yourself。 You had very good teeth; and I hope they are so still; but even those who have bad ones; should keep them clean; for a dirty mouth is; in my mind; ill manners。 In short; neglect nothing that can possibly please。 A thousand nameless little things; which nobody can describe; but which everybody feels; conspire to form that WHOLE of pleasing; as the several pieces of a Mosaic work though; separately; of little beauty or value; when properly joined; form those beautiful figures which please everybody。 A look; a gesture; an attitude; a tone of voice; all bear their parts in the great work of pleasing。 The art of pleasing is more particularly necessary in your intended profession than perhaps in any other; it is; in truth; the first half of your business; for if you do not please the court you are sent to; you will be of very little use to the court you are sent from。 Please t
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